Parenting is demanding and can seem overwhelming to a woman who has found herself with an unplanned pregnancy. Many women do however choose this option and find that although challenging, they can still pursue many of their life goals and dreams.
Where can I live with my baby?
Housing, support, financial considerations - all these factors contribute to fear and uncertainty that she can choose to have a child.
Look into your housing options before you deliver. Some possibilities include living with a friend or relative, living with your parents or the birth father's parents, living in a group hom e for single mothers, or living in public, subsidized housing. Look for a safe and affordable place to live. Consider your childcare options in each situation. If you are a student, ask if your school offers daycare. Our client advocates can help you develop a gameplan for future housing.
For many women who find themselves in this situation, they are relieved to discover maternity homes where they can prepare themselves for parenting, work towards financial independence and simply receive love and support. At little to no cost, they can gain the knowledge and independence necessary to meet the challenges of parenting.
Birth Choice is currently partnering with Toby’s House in Capo Beach, CA. For more information, visit their website at or call (949) 661-4408.
Many churches and community agencies can help with needed baby items. Your counselor can connect you with parenting classes and other resources, including public assistance for medical and financial needs.
The birthfather's legal responsibilities include providing financial support for your child. Most states have a child support enforcement agency which will withhold money from his paycheck if he is unwilling to pay. Your child is entitled to financial support. The best way is to start is to talk to the birthfather and develop a plan. If that is not possible the California Department of Child Support Services works to ensure that every child has the financial and emotional support to which he or she is legally entitled. We have more information and the paperwork necessary to pursue financial support at each of our clinics. You can also visit for more information.
(In California)
Discuss his rights and responsibilities with your counselor, attorney, or your state social services department. You and the child's father should also discuss with each other your individual rights and responsibilities. A child's needs are vest met when birthparents work together.
Parenting Preparation Checklist
If you are a first-time parent, or are going to be a first time parent, you may be having a hard time getting prepared for the task. Fortunately, you have some time to get prepared.
Talking with friends and family who have children is a great place to start. They can recommend services such as child care and medical care, parenting strategies, and other useful tips that you may not think about.
Birth Choice Health Clinics also offers parenting classes. Click here to find a Bridges Program near you. We also have many community referrals. If you or someone you know needs more information contact us.
Here are a few ideas to help you get prepared to be a parent:
Take Parenting Classes:
Parenting classes teach you the basics about baby and child care, discipline, how to have healthy relationships.
Get the Essentials:
First Aid: Learn CPR for infants and children.
Maternity Leave: Most states have laws in place that require companies to allow working mothers and fathers up to 12 weeks of un-paid leave for the birth of a child. The law that requires companies to provide this time off is the Family Medical Leave Act. For more information about specific guidelines and stipulations, please visit this link at:
Child Care: Figure out ahead of time what you’re going to do for routine and emergency child care situations.
